Dodged a bullet

I was in love with my first boyfriend - we became reunited and I visited him in Germany while he was stationed there. I realize that I was in love with the idea of him though. A young love re-kindled. He since became engaged to another and subsequently married. I heard that he has become this machine of hate against the people he is fighting. I could never be okay with someone that openly hates a group of people. I am relieved that he is now someone else's problem and not mine.